They say every face in a crowd has a story to tell, this is my story..

The news shows and newspapers all called it 'Road Rage'. To me that sounded like a disease, an affliction that can make you kill. A sorry excuse to take the claw end of a hammer and slam it repeatedly into the skull of a human being. In April of 1999 my little brother passed away. Doesn't passed away sound so gentle, even normal? David's death was neither. It was murder. He was found lying in a strangers driveway in a pool of blood. He had been punched, stomped and beaten over his entire body. I still have so many questions. I wrote this book at first for therapy and then for answers. I have found a few. I mainly realized l lost a brother tragically and senselessly. Like every other face in the crowd I have a story..and I want to share my story with you! PUBLICATION DATE TO BE ANNOUNCED LATE SUMMER/EARLY FALL :)

Tuesday, November 23, 2010

More from "Bristol Stomp"....the sentencing

Driving to the courthouse that day was surreal.  I could not believe it was March 17, 2000.  It was Saint Patrick’s Day.  Hopefully that meant the day would be lucky.  I guess that is not the right thought.  What I wanted had nothing to do with luck and everything to do with justice.
 David died in April.  It was nearly a year.  I had trouble comprehending it had almost been a year.  Little Michael will be turning two at the end of this month.  I thought about Michael’s first birthday.  That was the last time our entire family was together, happy.  I remembered Dave’s smile that day as he proudly held his son.  The tears started. 
I had to pull over.  I had to pull myself together.  I wanted to do an effective job reading my impact statement.  The prosecutor told us this was our day in court.  We did not have to cry quietly.  We were not going to be told where we could look and where we couldn’t.  Our day in court, yes this was important.  I had to get myself together.
I pulled down my visor mirror and did my best to repair my running makeup.  Shortly I would witness once again the two scumbags being led off to prison in shackles.  This time they would be going off to prison for at least twenty five years.  That thought gave me peace.  Not happiness, just peace.  And of course there was satisfaction in the sight.  I could not help that feeling.  The thought of the two of them being thrown into little cells with little windows, alone, God forgive me but that was satisfying.  I felt better, stronger so I pulled back onto the road.
As I saw the huge round building, I thought about how out of place it looked in this old town.  It was too modern.  I wondered who designed the ugly building.  Maybe ugly isn’t fair, it didn’t fit the landscape of historic Doylestown.  Supposedly the courthouse was built here because Doylestown was the center of Bucks County.  I wondered what it looked like from the air. It probably looked like a big round ugly dot right there in the center of Bucks County.
I loved the quaint little town.  The shops, the old Victorian homes, galleries, the restaurants and of course the bars and churches that reminded me of Bristol.  The people that lived in this town, a lot of them were stuck up.  They thought their town was so much better than Bristol. They thought they were better, people.   But, they did not have the Delaware River and I doubted this town could even come close to the real small town feel of Bristol.

I parked, and started my long walk around the ugly round building.  It was windy and as usual I was freezing.  I wished bad karma on the idiot that closed the doors closest to the parking lot and the cheap morons that did not install security at both entrances.  Things would have moved so much quicker and smoother.  The security lines were always too long. 
If I was in charge- what a thought that was.  There would of course be two entrances.  I would also provide some kind of safe haven area for victims and their families.  The way it is now, throwing everyone together like cattle was ridiculous.  It was also very dangerous.
There was talk of tearing this courthouse down and building a new one.  I hoped whoever designed the new building would be a little more compassionate towards victims.
            Once again, there were many sheriffs in the hallway leading to the courtroom.  I was surprised again by the large crowd.  I scanned around looking for my family. I did not feel safe with so many people gathered in such a small area.  I saw my friend Sam the policeman who was now a county sheriff.  I would have to remember to wish him a happy Saint Pat’s Day. I knew it was one of his favorites.  I missed seeing him in his patrol car in Bristol.  He had been there for so long.
I had barely arrived when I was bombarded by my family with the news that Galione and Reeves also had the right to have people speak on their behalf.  I was livid.  We should have known.  It would have changed the way we prepared.  We would have had more letters written, we would have asked more friends and relatives to be here for us.  I tried so hard not to cry.  Damn, I did not want to have to fix my make-up again.  I wanted to appear confident and in control.
            I was truly shocked to see that Nicole Rivera, Jerry Reeves, girlfriend brought their baby to court.  This poor baby had been born with no arms or legs.  I felt they were using the baby for sympathy.  From what I had heard Jerry had never been there for Nicole or the baby.  I did feel sorry for Nicole and hoped she would have the common sense to move on with her life and find some happiness.  I hoped her family would be there to support her.  For Galione’s girlfriend, Janine, I wished misery for her.  She washed David’s blood off Galione’s clothes and lied under oath.  I knew she would not stick around and wait for her man.  She was too selfish.
            I was not prepared for the friends and family of the defendant’s to be given the opportunity to speak.  It was sheer torture sitting there listening to how wonderful these two young men were.  They were murderers.  It was ridiculous.  Galione presented the judge with seventy letters of support.  Galione’s parents enlisted their friends to speak on their son’s behalf saying, “he has always been so polite”.  I was going to be sick again.  The judge even commented, as to how disturbing it was to that so many of the letters claimed Galione was innocent.  The parade of aunts, uncles, brothers, sisters and teachers seemed to go on forever.
            When it was finally my turn to speak I walked to the front of the courtroom and faced the judge.  I got through my letter.  Tears stung in my eyes but I fought them off.  I did the best I could.  When I finished, Mel Kardos asked permission to question me.  That had not happened to anybody else all day.  I looked at Matt and he shook his head yes.  The judge granted the permission.  I was shaking.  He asked me where I worked.  I was stunned.  What was his point?  I told the judge I was scared to say where I worked.  I did not want any of them to know where I worked.  I knew Kardos wanted me to say I worked at The Bucks County Courier Times.  He was going to say I had something to do with the press coverage of this case.  It was ridiculous, I was lucky if I got a pen in that building let alone the power to drive the news.  I turned to Kardos, smiled sarcastically and answered I worked for a company called GPN.  He was clearly, annoyed that he did not get the answer he wanted.  It was the truth.  GPN was Greater Philadelphia Newspapers, I did not lie.  That was what was on my paychecks.
            I nervously looked over at Laurie Mason, she is the writer for The Bucks County Courier Times, that covers all trials and court related events.  She even has her own little office in the basement of the courthouse.  I thought that was so cool.  She smiled.  I ran up to her as soon as it was over and asked her if I lied.  She laughed, and said no.  She said it was amazing that I came up with the perfect truthful answer.
            I found out later from the prosecutor and the reporters that they had never, ever, heard someone questioned after giving an impact statement.  It was another excuse to hate Mel Kardos.  What an arrogant sob he was.
            Judge Heckler gave a little speech.  He said there had been many lulls in the fighting that night and he said Jimmy and Jerry should have stopped.
 Jerry Reeves asked to speak.  He stood up and said he was not responsible for David’s death.  He said the real killer was still free.  Yeah, I had to agree there were other killers still free, but he was responsible for David’s death.  They all were.  Peter Hall asked the judge to delay the sentencing so he could do more investigating.  He was a moron, more investigating was not needed, more arrests were needed.  Thank God the judge refused.
Bucks County Courthouse; Doylestown, Pa.

Thursday, November 18, 2010

Friday Fragments....

Happy Friday Everyone!

I am feeling almost normal again after my gall bladder removal..10 days today!

I have been on some serious drugs so if I have visited your blog or your face book page and sounded really stupid and couldn't spell; I apologize...it is embarrassing!

Thank you to our amazing host for Friday Fragments, Mrs. 4444 over at Half Past Kissin Time.  You can find her here:www.halfpastkissintime.com 

Also the gorgeous Java over at Never Growing Old, if you are an over 40 blogger you will find many friends here:nevergrowingold.blogspot.com

So it is starting to get down right chilly in the Philly burbs...I do not like the cold..however did any of you catch our Eagles um I guess beat down the Redskins?
Only in Philadelphia can we take a convicted dog killer and make him a star.  We are all saying things like he did his time; he's changed; he deserves another chance...okay I'm buying into it..the guy is a damn good football player...bring on the Giants!!
And while we are on sports..congrats to our very own Doc Halladay!!!

My husband surprised me today by getting my new office painted while I was at work today..I love that man..he just gets me and he knows how badly I need this new creative space..I am only obligated to finish 2 more books in 2 months.  No problem seriously they are just about done I just must love to pile pressure on myself!  (hopefully by next week I will have before and after photo's :)

I have 3 prizes from my contest in my car; they are coming I swear...my gut hurts too bad to stand in line at the post office...maybe I should send my amazing husband. .to the post office...I will!  Only 20 more to reach my goal..for every 10 new followers I will randomly pick a winner from all followers...just for following...Thank you; all of you xxxooo

I am about to bust with amazing book news and you all here on this blog will be the first to know; before anyone...I am a bit overwhelmed with so much happening at once...I need to just breathe..and realize..I did it..finally..almost!

I am making reservations to take Morgan who will be 8 and Julia who is turning 11 to American Girl for their birthdays...I am so excited!

I wish you all a blessed Thanksgiving- We will be spending the day with most of the kids and grand kids; I miss them so much :(

 If you remember this past summer my step son Michael was in a terrible motorcycle crash.  It was touch and go for a long time.  If you are the praying type please send a few his way, he is not doing well and we are really worried...


I am so thankful for each and everyone of you.  I can always count on reading just the right comment I need to hear at the right time.  A big virtual hug for all of you (((HUGS)))!!

Brotherly Love..Lance and Louie
My favorite quote today: "When you ask for miracles, you get folks" Christopher Gallenberg

Monday, November 15, 2010

Just a quick update..

My gall bladder has been removed!!
 I was in the hospital for a full week (strange don't you think) I am now home and experiencing just a bit of discomfort.  I hope to be feeling 100% in a week or so.
 Thank you all for your kind comments and well wishes I really appreciate all of you!
I hope to be back to FF this week :)
Doreen

Thursday, November 4, 2010

Friday Fragments....

What is wrong with this picture?
$5,000.00- cat scan- polyps in gall bladder
$5345.00- MRI- polyps in gall bladder
$3200.00- ultrasound- swollen gall bladder with polyps

2 weeks ago- primary Doctor "gall bladder has to come out before it becomes an emergency" so he prescribes another test which took 2 weeks to get the appointment for and that is today at 8am.

2 nights ago the agony started and has not stopped.  ER gives a drink of something disgusting to stop the pain and sends me home...

I WANT MY GALL BLADDER OUT NOW:  please!!! (think good thoughts for me today).
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Sorry; I had to vent...but Friday Fragments is just that..the chance to vent all the fragmented pieces of your week.  It is the brain child of the brilliant Mrs. 4444.  You can find her and a lot of really nice friends here:www.halfpastkissintime.com
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I am also very humbled by the amazing new friends I have found at the lovely Java's, Blogger's Over 40 Friday Follow.  You will be in good company here:nevergrowingold.blogspot.com
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On my quest to reach 300 followers I have been having a contest/giveaway.  For every 10 new followers I will randomly pick a winner from all of my followers and send you a gift.  For my 2 winners from last week..your gifts will be in the mail on Monday!  To my followers Thank you!!
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I would like to share with you, my friend Rebecca.  She is the author of the novel "The Bird Sister's" which is due out in April 2011.  She is a sweetheart and I wish her all the best; besides the fact that her book sounds amazing! I cannot wait to read!  You can meet her here:www.thebirdsisters.com 
I would love to know what you think...
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My Hubby's niece the amazing, Kate Walton had  
REALLY BIG NEWS This week.  She has sold her YA novel.  We are very excited for her.  You can read all about her (she is brilliant and funny) here:http://skateorbate.blogspot.com
Again; I would love to know what you think...
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I am super nervous and super excited to have been invited to do several guest blog posts over the next few month's...more info to come...
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We had a great time on Halloween with a handful (okay) a bunch of our grand babies a niece and a nephew.  Pop-Pop and I; after 2 blocks offered to take 'lil' monkey Peyton Elizabeth home. (It was freezing cold).  She got her first 2 bottom teeth and laughed the whole time.  I cannot believe she was 5 months old on November 1st.  Here are a few photo's:
Big Sis Allyson and Adriana
Adriana, Mom-Mom, Morgan Layla and Dominic
Isn't she the cutest little monkey?
Mom-Mom, Peyton Elizabeth and big sis Morgan Layla
                                                           
Adriana as Nemo with a boo-boo
My Princess Allyson and nephew Michael
lil Jimmy B and the back of his sister Julia's head (the witch)
Adriana, Morgan Layla, Avery Paige, Mom-Mom, Peyton Elizabeth and big Jim
Pop-Pop and Peyton Elizabeth (she had the biggest smile; I just was not fast enough)
I am overwhelmed with blessings.  I adore my husband.  I love my family.
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So; for the first time I put a photo of my handsome, talented, adored and taken away from us much too soon brother, David in a post from the book.  I thought it would be nice for people to see who they were reading about.  It was a step for me.
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Favorite Quote this week: "In back of every creation, supporting it like an arch is faith.  Enthusiasm is nothing.  It comes and goes, but if one believes, than miracles can occur"
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I know a 'bad' question but how did the election go for you?

Anyone start Holiday shopping yet?


Have a powerful and positive week! 
Doreen

Wednesday, November 3, 2010

From the book "Bristol Stomp"....I had a dream (nightmare about this lastnight)..




It was hard for me to go to Bristol at that time.   There was a makeshift memorial for David close to the spot where he was found.   It was slightly comforting.   I felt close to Dave in that spot.   I honestly am now affected every time I see any such memorial.   Crosses on the highway, flowers scattered by the side of the road,  I always wonder who they were, who their families are and how are they doing.   I wondered how many other people actually took the time to notice.   I once heard a woman say she thought they were eyesores.   I bit my tongue.   I know the comfort they provide.   I also got a sick pleasure out of the fact that the killers and their families had to see the memorial and be reminded every time they drove by.   My brother-in-law Tony was very diligent with the upkeep of the memorial.   He and my sister lived less than a block away.   David loved to stop at the WaWa in Bristol for a cup of coffee and cigarettes.   It always brought a smile to my face when I stopped by and saw a cup of coffee and a pack of Marlboro’s by the angel’s feet.   I hoped people would always remember.   I was so afraid people would forget.
            I was really getting frustrated waiting for the other seven people to be charged.  Months were going by.   The police kept telling us to be patient.   My patience was running out.   They were out there, living their lives and probably never thought about David or what they had done to his family.   I was obsessed with wanting to know every detail of what each of them had done.  I did not want to imagine anymore I just wanted to know.
 I realized I had not seen the car.  I asked Randy what happened to the car and he said it was evidence and suggested I do not go to see it.   I had to go.   I was not prepared for what I saw.   I wondered how much more my mind could take.  I was trembling and could not stop.  Every window was broken, there were dents everywhere and the car seat had been ripped out.  The seat belt holding the car seat in place had actually been ripped.   Who could do that to a baby seat?   I heard through the Bristol Borough grapevine that it was Steve Owtscharuk.   I did not know much about him.   I know I wanted him charged with something.   Any person that could watch; or beat a man to death knowing he was the father of a baby could not be anything but pure evil.   I am not very proud of some of the thoughts I had about him.   I saw him in WaWa one day and it was so hard not to scream at him.   I wished that he would have a baby one day and that he would be in a horrible accident with his baby in the car seat that was so mangled and he could not rip the seat belt and save his baby.  I could not believe I even thought of such a thing.   Not that I felt guilty about wishing harm on Steve because I did.  I did feel guilty about wishing harm on an imaginary baby.  I convinced myself it was part of the grieving process.  I was angry!

I could not shake the image of that car.  Did they do all that damage while Dave was still in the car?  Did they come back and do more damage after they left him in that driveway bleeding to death?  Is that why Joe, Anthony and Dave decided to run from the car?  Did they fear for their lives?  I would have, had someone been pounding on my car with that much force and anger.  I would have been terrified.  Dave had been hit with his own level.  The one he used for his mason work.  He kept it in the trunk of his car.  How did these killers get their hands on that level?  I imagined maybe as these wild animals were pounding on the car David pushed the trunk button to keep them from breaking the back window.
            Maybe Joe, Anthony and Dave were going to try to grab the tools and use them to get away.  On the other hand, the bad people could have gotten the tools after Joe, Anthony and Dave ran away from the car.
            Dave had glass fragments stuck in his face.  I saw them that first night in the hospital.  He had to have still been in the car while the windows were being smashed.  I imagined when Dave got out of the car he was immediately hit over the head with something and was injured and confused.  Was this why he never caught up to Joey and Anthony?  Why was I driving myself crazy trying to figure this out?  David was dead; did the horrific details really matter?
            I really wanted to know what was going on with the investigation.  I was not hearing much.  I feared the police where busy preparing for the trial and not preparing to arrest Jimmy Williams, Mike Good and Steve Owtscharuk.  I wondered if the two cars had been searched that night.  Where was the other hammer?  It could be anywhere.  It could be at the house where the party was held that night.   I felt it was most likely at the bottom of the Delaware River.  I heard that through the Borough grapevine too.   It was getting harder and harder to believe the good guys always win.  David was one of the good guys.  Without a doubt, he was a good guy.   I was hanging onto my faith by a thread.   Not that I questioned my belief in God, I was just having trouble believing he was going to make all this make sense.   I had to believe the bad guys would pay.  If I lost that thought for a moment I feared I would lose my mind.
           

Friday, October 29, 2010

Friday Fragments

Happy Friday Everyone.  Welcome to Friday Fragments where I can unload all the little pieces in my mind that cannot fill an entire post.  The host of Friday Fragments is the super talented Mrs.4444 and you can find her and join in the fun here:www.halfpastkissintime.com
Because I am over 40; I also participate in the beautiful Java's Follow Friday.  You can join in here:http://nevergrowingold.blogspot.com

Okay so this past week my computer crashed 3 times.  I knock on something hope it is okay for a couple of weeks until I can get a new one.  I still am working on locating all of my photo's.

I was a foster Mom to a little girl 11 years ago.  We had her from the time she was 7 weeks until she was 7 1/2.  At that time she went back to her Mother briefly then to her father in Minnesota (far from here).  We were all devastated and missed her terribly.  I found her or she found me on Facebook this week. (Enter 11 years of tears here).  I am happy and cannot wait to see her.

Also this past week I found out I have to give up my gall bladder.  The doc tells me they will just make a little hole and suck it out.  Yeah right; I'm always the 1 in a 1000, but I am going to think positive here and hope for the best.

We will be Trick or Treating with all 11 grand kids on Sunday.  I cannot wait to share all the photo's with you.  I hope you all have a safe and happy Halloween.
Then comes November!

My contest is still running: for every 10 new followers I will randomly pick a winner from all followers.  Good Luck to all and if you are the 2 winners from last week I will get your prizes out to you this week.  Congrats.

My little dog Louie has a lump or a something on his neck; vet appointment next Wednesday,  I hope it is nothing serious.

I must go now and take Sophie (our homeless woman who is no longer homeless) to the doctors and hopefully have some paper work filled out so we will be able to place her in a nice new home.

Have a great weekend and God Bless!

Favorite quote this day: Forgiving someone takes their power over you back.  It is also entertaining to watch them continue to attempt to control you with what is no longer theirs.

Monday, October 25, 2010

Bully Free Zone

    *This post comes with a warning:  It may or may not be P.C.  It is meant to be an honest conversation; if you fear honesty, please do not read!
The Network of Victim Assistance (NOVA) came into my life shortly after my brother was murdered.  They counseled us and held our hands through every step of the justice system.  I do not know what I would have done without them.
When NOVA invited me to sit on their board of directors; I was deeply humbled.  More than anything I wanted to help others who had been faced with the horror my family faced.  I also wanted to be an example to my kids; to show them bad things happen to good people and kindness begets kindness.
NOVA not only supports and empowers victims of all crimes they also educate.  The education department holds seminars for police officers and hospital staff on empathy for victims of crime.  They also visit every school in Bucks County, Pa. equipped with programs to counsel students in need, teach anger resolution skills, of course the famous good touch bad touch and my personal favorite The Bully Free School Zone.
Bullying is not new.  It has been around since the beginning of time.  Cyber bullying is however new and the jury is still out on whether bullying of any kind is just a right of passage while growing up.  
Personally I think it is cruel and unjust and should never be tolerated.  I am a Pisces after all which makes me a dreamer.  I just want everyone to play nice.
Children MUST be taught to be kind.  The best way to teach kids to be kind is by example.  My kids will be the the first to tell you that I would give my last dollar to a stranger in need.
This brings me to my confession.   I have been the victim of bullies my entire life.  It started in kindergarten.  The bullies I encountered only taught me who I did not want to be.  That was pretty heavy for a 6yr. old but it is the truth.   Was I afraid to go to school at times?  Absolutely, I was terrified.
As I got older I was steadfast in my convictions.   I would never be mean to anyone; ever.
When I turned 13 the worst kind of bully entered my life.  I was sexually assaulted by a trusted adult complete with threats of terror if I told anyone.  I told.  
I grew up and was bullied in my career by supervisors.  This was prior to sexual harassment in the work place being invented, Yes I am that old,so to me they were just big bullies.  
I also chose bullies for romantic partners.  The scary thing was I actually believed I could help them; change them.  What an idiot I was.
When 7 bullies chose to beat my brother to death with bats and hammers  my kindness soul was cracked.  For the first time in my life I felt gut wrenching, heart burning anger and hatred.  My own thoughts scared me to death.
Through the grace of God, with the help of NOVA and 7 years of intense therapy, I slowly began emptying the bag I had stuffed with every hurt feeling, bad touch or evil word I ever heard.  It was one heavy bag.
My conversation now turns to adult bullies.  Little bullies unchecked grow up to be adult bullies.  They come in all shapes, sizes, sexes, colors and nationalities.  Can you recognize an adult bully?  If one was harassing you would you be too ashamed, embarrassed or scared to tell someone?
I have had an adult bully for a very long time!  I told everyone right away.  I of course got the feeling no one believed me and was actually told that this person was practically a saint.  I was deeply hurt.  I  let it go.  Every now and again it would happen again.  I started to stuff again but not for long.  The difference now is I am a big girl and I have been armed with Mad Skills to out bullies.  Actually all it took was putting my phone on speaker and having the non-believers hear the vile venom spewed my way.  I will not tolerate that behavior from anyone ever again! (and just in case you were wondering I have no clue what I did or supposedly did to this person to cause the behavior).
So can you recognize an adult bully?  They can be very crafty.  They have a Jekyll & Hyde nature-they are vile and vindictive in private, but innocent and charming in front of witnesses.  No one can (or wants to) believe this individual has a vindictive nature-only the current target of the serial bully sees both sides.
Adult bullies use excessive charm and are always plausible and convincing with family, peers, superiors and others.  The charm is used to cover up a deep lack of empathy.
These bullies will always outsmart most people in verbal interaction, especially in times of conflict.
They can be so kind, helpful and loving....verbally...but there can be a lack of physical love (hugging, snuggling, cuddling of children or spouse) due to severe emotional damage suffered early in life.
I feel deeply sorry for my personal bully.  She is deeply unhappy and has never felt quite "good enough".  I include her and her family in my prayers everyday.  She however; must never take my forgiveness and kindness  for granted.  I will not be her victim again; ever!
*If you are being bullied by an adult-tell someone.  Tell everyone, until someone listens.  Of course today's technology can be quite useful in catching these bullies in the act!

My favorite quote this week:  Four things that can never be recovered: the stone after it has been thrown, the word after it has been spoken, the occasion after it has been missed and the time after it has gone.

If you have time; you can scroll way down until you see the pretty gazebo.  It is a link to NOVA and all kinds of useful information for victims and/or their friends or family.  Peace!

Friday, October 15, 2010

Friday Fragments....Finally!!

I have not had a good week!  My newest computer fried and I thought once again I had lost everything.  (My book revisions and my blog and of course all those photo's that need to be sent to snapfish).  My husband unhooked everything and left the house with the computer.  I pouted for awhile and than started to feel lazy so I took some laundry to the basement.  The floor was wet; uggh the water was up to my ankles.  I was upset.  I moved just about everything down there because we are redoing a few rooms in the house.  Some very sentimental items have been ruined.  We never have water in our basement and cannot figure out why it keeps happening.  We are calling a plumber on Monday.  Any way have I ever told you all how much I love my husband.  That man is a miracle to me.  He has been dealt with the worst blows a parent should ever have to deal with and he finds happiness in the tiniest little things.  I cannot help but smile when he looks at me.  He makes everything okay.  And on those days when he cannot find an itty bit of happiness I share mine with him.  We are very sappy; but seriously love one another :)
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  LETS GO PHILLIE'S  On the menu for tomorrow nights game: junk food and lots of it.  Wings, beans, salads, nacho's and so much more!!
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Did I mention my computer has been brought back from the dark screen?  Only $65.00.  But I need to re-load my word program and the stupid disc drawer will not open.  We called the person who fixed it and she said she noticed it.  DUH!  Why did you not tell us?  Now we have to unhook and take it back and WTH!!

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Okay enough suspense...but a little business first...FRIDAY FRAGMENTS is the brainchild of a very kind person; Mrs. 4444.  You can find her and the link for FRIDAY FRAGMENTS here:www.halfpastkissintime.com 
And I have chosen Mrs. 4444 as one of the winners in my goal to 300 followers contest.  I felt like she read my posts and I appreciate her time.  
I have also chosen VH Sehy Photography. (and to answer her question..Dave was Joan's uncle.  They were only 2 years apart and were extremely close.  Joan has a keen psychic ability as do I and it scares both of us.  You can find her and her beautiful photo's here: vmsehyphotography.blogspot.com
I have also chosen Coby because she makes me smile; you can find a reason to smile and some joy here:
sugarbaby-coby.blogspot.com
And yes I have one more winner... and don't forget I will choose a winner for every 10 new followers.  The winners will be randomly chosen from all followers and all comments.  All you have to do is nothing; unless you want to leave me a comment :)
The one more winner is: Robin and she will make you laugh; check her out here: yourdailydose-robin.blogspot.com
So all of you please send me your address to doreenb8@verizon.net and I will send you something and thank you all for following and leaving meaningful comments; you have no idea how much you mean to me!!
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I am also hooking up with the very lovely Java at never growing old.  This blog is very over 40 friendly.  You can find many friends here at the Friday Follow: nevergrowingold.blogspot.com 

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Our travel plans to a secret location have been made;  I am bursting with excitement;  The launch party is close to being finalized and I cannot wait to share all the details with you :) :) :)

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My favorite quote's this week : 
Forgiving someone takes their power over you back.  It's also entertaining to watch them continue to attempt to control you with what is no longer theirs. 
And: Violence is never the answer unless the question is "what is never the answer"  Cleveland

This weekend I will be having a movie date with my husband and watching some Phillie's (please let them win) and some Eagles and some Flyers's and I really hope I find some time to take out some winter clothes...it is freezing here in Philly!
Have a positive weekend!! 

Monday, October 11, 2010

More from Bristol Stomp...


Such a beautiful Ball Park!
Great Game!
How about those Phillie's!!!
To celebrate my blog approaching 300 followers I am giving a prize for every 10 new followers;  The winners this week will be chosen from the comments on this post and from my last 2 posts.   I am looking for the most meaningful comments...Good Luck and Thank You!! 
I will announce the winner's on Friday!! 
 From Bristol Stomp:
I had plenty of time alone at night to think.  I thought about that night often.  I had always thought Dave had been coming west on Wilson Avenue.  Or was he was driving east?  Jerry Reeves car must have been following him down Route 13, Greene Lane and then onto Wilson Avenue.  I just don't know.  I believe Dave pulled over because Jerry was flashing his lights or beeping.  David most likely assumed it was someone he knew.  Perhaps he thought it was one of my kids or my sister or any one of his many friends.  As Jerry walked up to the car and Dave rolled the window down, I believe Jerry punched David as the others in his car surrounded David's car.  Joey and Anthony got out of the car.  There was a fight that did not last long.  Dave, Joey and Anthony were stunned.  As they tried to pull away they were surrounded.  I believe Dave was struck in the back of the head with something as soon as he got out of the car.  He stumbled to the driveway being hit with something the whole way.  When he was down I do believe Steve was hitting David with something, Mike Good was stomping on his head and Jerry was beating him with the level.  When Galione finished beating on Anthony he came over and knelt over Dave and pounded that hammer into Dave’s head.  This is what I think.  Will I ever know the entire truth?  I hope so.  Will the others be arrested ever?  I’m not going to give up, ever! There is no statute of limitation on murder.
            Something else I think is instead of blaming my family, the Galione’s, Reeves and the other murderer’s family and friends should have started a fund for Michael and Birna.   Birna lost her husband, her car and was unable to work in the United States until her green card situation was settled.   We did not even have a car seat for Michael because someone smashed it to pieces.  There was no reason to treat any of us the way we were treated. Where was your compassion, your Christianity?  I do not know how you live with yourselves or sleep at night.  Jimmy and Jerry went to jail because they murdered David.   That was their choice.  We did not put them there.   That choice hurt a lot of people and still does, like it happened yesterday.
            You should have the moral conviction to leave any time you see us at a party, in a store or at a bar.   That would just be the right thing to do.   How dare you make any comment to Birna or any of us!   I pray every day for the ability to forgive you for your behavior.    I pray that you will be struck by some flash of light that says, what where we thinking.  Why did we hurt that family more than they where already hurting so badly?
            What I mostly think is like so many other faces in a crowd I’m  just a sister that lost a brother tragically.   It is not a new story unfortunately violence does strike someone minute of everyday.
            I thought a lot about Anthony and Joey and Dominic.   Anthony and Joey were the last people on earth to hear David.   They were the last two to see him as he was when he was alive, a big strong gentle giant.   I wondered what they were thinking.    Did they torture themselves like I did going over and over that night in their minds?    Did David ever come to them in their dreams?
I also thought about my friends.   I was so busy with the babies and my blossoming social life I never saw or heard from any of them.   I really missed Tina.   I wondered if I had done something wrong.   Was she sick of my sadness and depression?   Maybe she had stuff going on in her life and she needed me but felt I couldn’t be there.    That made me sad.    Or does life take people in different directions.   Of course there were the friends that turned out to be not worth my time.   The ones that said get over it already and move on.   I was making some new friends at NOVA but I really did miss some of the old ones.
            I thought about the psychic that night at Michael’s.    He clearly saw something violent was going to happen.   He told Joan to crawl under the car to be safe.  Why didn’t Dave crawl under the car?   Why did the psychic see Joan and not Dave in the violence?
Statistics show Road Rage is becoming an increasing problem in our nation.  If you find yourself in a harassing situation by another driver, do not react!  Avoid making any eye contact,  this could be a trigger for confrontation.  Do not be temped to accelerate, break or swerve suddenly.  This may also be seen as confrontational and increases your chance of losing control of your vehicle.  If a driver continues to hassle you or you think you are being followed, drive to the nearest police station or busy place and get help.
I thought about people like Natalie Holloway’s family.  They have no idea what happened to their daughter.  They have no idea where she is.  We may not have all the pieces, but we do know David is dead. We know where his ashes are.  These poor parents had no clue.  I cried and prayed for them.  I saw their fight for justice was going to be agonizing.  I wanted to hug them.  I wanted to go to Aruba and help them find their baby.
            I tried to stop thinking about all of this stuff.  I needed to move on and put some kind of life together for myself.  I knew without a doubt I wanted to help victims.  That would always be a part of my life.  I devoted a lot of time to NOVA.  I hoped God had put me on the right path.